//squeeze//

“In good times and in bad.”

Every time Becky and I hear those words at weddings, we squeeze hands. Not as a hint about
one of us falling short. Instead, as a reminder that both “good” and “bad” really do happen.

We recently published a book to help people navigate bad times. Or dark times. Whatever you
want to call them. The promise shared across every page: Even in the challenge of a cancer
journey, goodness can be found – but only if someone shines a light in the right direction.

Here’s what such light looks like, as Becky describes her role as a caregiver (page 105):

“David’s needs shifted based on procedures, treatments, good news, rough news, and new
challenges. His emotions wobbled. Mine careened as I constantly pushed myself to do
something – okay, anything – that could help. He fought the disease; I fought for him.
Imperfectly many times, which is perfectly fine.

“Please hold tight to that grace-filled truth: Imperfect is perfectly fine.”

Our daughter’s wedding took place recently. Nobody noticed, but Becky and I held hands.

And squeezed.

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